• Acknowledge your feelings; that you were hurt or are feeling angry
• Work through your feelings: talk about it, write about it, cry about it
• Learn to let go of these feelings (It may take time)
• Forgiveness is NOT about forgetting, but about letting go of those feelings
• Letting go of the pain of the memory means that that it no longer controls us
• Forgiveness is about freeing up and putting to better use the energy consumed in holding on to grudges or resentment
• NOT forgiving is like drinking a cup of poison, and hoping the other person will die
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– Dr Dick on www.men2men.co.za
– or Dr Delicious on www.womyn2womyn.co.za
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